My husband dedicates five days a week to his job, and for years, he’s chosen to shower only on weekends. I’ve mentioned several times that daily showers might benefit him, but he often responds with, “I’m exhausted after work.” Initially, I accepted his reasoning, believing it was his way of managing fatigue. Over time, however, the issue became more noticeable. His clothes carried an odor, and I felt uneasy when guests visited our home. My concern wasn’t solely about appearances—it was rooted in his health and well-being.
Last evening, when he returned from work, I spotted something striking on his shirt: a prominent sweat stain mixed with dirt and grime from his day. When he removed the shirt, I saw how much he’d been neglecting his personal care. It went beyond odor—it affected his skin, his comfort, and his overall health. I approached him calmly and said, “I know work leaves you drained, but skipping showers isn’t nurturing your body. You deserve to feel clean, refreshed, and at ease after a long day.”
He gazed at me for a moment, then nodded thoughtfully. For the first time, he seemed to grasp that my words came from care, not criticism. That night, he took a shower before bed, and the change in his demeanor was remarkable. He appeared more at ease, lighter, and even shared that he slept more soundly. The following morning, he said, “You might have a point. Maybe this needs to be part of my daily routine.”
Often, the small habits we neglect can impact not only ourselves but also those who care about us. Marriage isn’t about pointing out flaws—it’s about supporting each other to grow into our best selves. In that moment, I understood a profound truth: taking care of yourself is also a meaningful way to show love for those who cherish you.
