I went on a first date with a guy named Mark. He was one of those guys you match with and immediately feel a tiny spark—not a fire, but enough warmth to give it a shot. His profile had decent banter, photos that suggested he worked out but didn’t live at the gym, and he even had a dog. Not a prop dog either, a real one—looked like they went hiking together. That counted for something in my book.
When we met at Louella’s—a cozy Southern-fusion restaurant tucked into a corner of downtown Austin—he greeted me with a charming-enough smile and that overly rehearsed joke about how he hoped I wasn’t secretly a catfish. I laughed because the night was young and I still had hope.
He looked like his pics, maybe even a bit better in person. Navy blue shirt, freshly trimmed beard, decent cologne. He opened the door for me, pulled out my chair, and even made pleasant conversation about music and travel. It was going fine. Not amazing, not fireworks-in-my-bones amazing, but fine.
I ordered a glass of red wine and he ordered bourbon, neat. He asked if I’d ever been to Greece and told me about a trip he took with some friends where they rented a boat. The food came—he had steak, I had their signature honey-glazed salmon—and we talked more. I thought maybe, just maybe, this night could end with a second date.
Then the dessert menus arrived.
The waitress—Shelby, I think—set one in front of each of us and asked if we wanted coffee or tea with anything sweet. I barely had time to scan the list—peach cobbler, buttermilk pie, chocolate bread pudding—before Mark leaned forward and did something that made my blood freeze.
He shut my menu. Shut it. With his hand.
“SHE’LL PASS,” he told Shelby, flashing his perfect white teeth. “She’s had enough.”
I blinked. I laughed, not because it was funny, but because I didn’t understand what was happening.
“I’m sorry, what?” I asked, half-smiling, hoping it was some joke I’d missed.
He leaned back, smug as hell. “No dessert for you, sweetheart. I like skinny women.”
The audacity of it hit me like a slap. It wasn’t the words alone, it was the tone. Like I was some unruly puppy and he was correcting me before I did something foolish. Like I should thank him.
Now, I could’ve just left. Gotten up, dropped a twenty on the table, walked out with my head high. But I’m not always that graceful.
And then I glanced behind him and saw the table.
It was a group of five women, probably in their late twenties, sharing a bottle of prosecco and laughing like they were already on their second round. They’d caught the tail end of what he said—I could tell by their raised eyebrows and the way one of them leaned toward the others, whispering something that made the rest burst into little gasps of outrage.
A plan formed in my mind instantly, like it had been sitting there, fully constructed, waiting for this very moment.
I turned back to Mark and smiled sweetly.
“You’re right,” I said, my voice honey-coated. “Dessert is a privilege.”
He looked pleased. Actually pleased. Like I had just passed some twisted test.
I waved Shelby over.
“Could you do me a favor?” I asked her. “I’d like to order dessert for that table over there. Whatever they want, on me. Just tell them it’s from the woman who ‘had enough.’”
Mark’s smile vanished.
Shelby blinked, then lit up like a Christmas tree. “Absolutely,” she said, practically skipping away.
Mark stared at me. “What the hell was that?”
I shrugged, sipping my wine. “Just a little something for the girls. You said I didn’t need dessert, so I figured they could enjoy it instead. You do like skinny women, right? So you’ll appreciate me staying in shape.”
The women cheered when Shelby told them. One of them raised her glass to me. Another winked. Mark looked like he wanted the floor to open up and swallow him whole.
I thought he’d get up and storm out. Honestly, I kind of hoped he would. But instead, he stayed, all tight-lipped and twitchy.
“That was unnecessary,” he muttered, stabbing at his steak.
“You know what’s unnecessary?” I replied, leaning in. “Telling a grown woman what she can or can’t eat on a first date. Who raised you?”
He didn’t have an answer.
The waitress came back, giddy. “They ordered everything,” she said under her breath, delighted. “They said to thank you for the best moment of their week.”
I tipped her an extra twenty and told her to tell the kitchen they had my blessing to make it rain powdered sugar.
Mark paid the bill, barely looking at me. I didn’t offer to split it. I figured he owed me at least that much.
We walked out, and I could feel the eyes of the other women on my back like a cape. I turned one last time and gave them a little wave. They raised their forks in salute.
Outside, he finally spoke again.
“You embarrassed me in there,” he said.
I looked him square in the eye. “Good. You earned it.”
Then I walked away. No hug, no fake promises to text later, no backward glance.
The next morning, I woke up to a string of texts.
Mark: “Can we talk?”
Mark: “I didn’t mean to offend you, I was just joking.”
Mark: “You didn’t have to show off like that.”
Mark: “You’re actually kind of stuck up.”
I blocked him.
Then I posted a storytime about it online. I changed his name, because I’m not that petty. But I made sure to keep the part about the women, the dessert, and the sweet taste of turning an insult into an inside joke shared by strangers who understood.
The post went viral. Hundreds of comments, messages, stories from other women who’d had similar experiences. One of the women from the restaurant even found the post and DM’d me a selfie of them with their forks mid-bite.
Turns out, the best dessert is knowing your dignity has more flavor than anything on the menu.
So, what would you have done if someone tried to decide what you could eat on a first date?
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